Dating Basics from a First Date Master

Don't take it personally. Dating is rough don’t take is so personal. Think of it like shopping. If you don't like the shirt you don't buy it. That doesn't mean there is anything wrong with the shirt, it just means it will go better on some else. You are the shirt. He is the one shopping and you're that one being picked therefore this post won't be about the girl on the hunt because face it girl you aren’t. It’s about how to work it and get those dates.

Getting his attention.

It’s simple. Be approachable but a challenge. SMILE. Gosh dang it girl, smile. No one wants to come up to a grumpy puss and talk. To get his attention be confident and make eye contact. For example if you’re on one side of the room and he is on the other and then when he looks your way, look back, smile just a little and hold it for just long enough to be a little uncomfortable or better said, so it’s clear that it wasn't just a glance. Maybe you need to do this a few times for him to get the hint. Guys do not want to come up to you and all your self-absorbed girlfriends just so you can make fun of them in your freakish telepathic ways. Stop thinking you're so tricky with your girlfriends. We all know you're cruel ways. The point is; don't hide behind your friends and sour face.

The First Moments.

When he approaches you don’t make it hard on him. Be open and give him the attention he wants. Look at him in the eyes and continue with a pleasure face. As girls we have the tendency to prejudge.  Before he even opens his mouth, we have put him in “creepy” or “cute” categories. Stop it. Don’t categorize the poor guy until it’s warranted.  It is safe to assume that any guy that comes up to you, is interested in you in some form.  Don’t let that freak you out. Start by responding to what he says and, like before mentioned, smile. Be pleasant.  Then don’t expect him to carry the whole conversation. Don’t dominate it but talk about him. Don’t respond with short abrupt statements, for example “sure.” Go off what he says and start the conversation.  Little do you know but boys have feelings too and they don’t just want to hear about your life. They like to be listened to as well.

Quick tip. When he asks you a question; respond and then ask him a question. That’s what they call a conversation.

Make it Easy on Him.

As the conversation progresses make it easy for him to get to know you. This goes back to the instant prejudge. Stop it. Give him a chance. His and your goal should be to find common interests or fails to give him an easy way to ask you out. Now when you do find that common interest, talk to him about that subject and take it somewhere. For example, I like to do sporty things and therefore many of my conversations lead to one of the sporty or outdoors activities that we both like. Then I drop a hint that we should do it together sometime. For example: “I totally own that movie so if you ever want to watch it, I here for you.” “Man, I’ve never been rock climbing but I really want to try.” Or “I’ve heard that restaurant is super good, but I’ve never tried it.”  Now this gives him an opportunity to get your number but if he doesn’t, it at least gives you something to talk about next time you run into each other. So make sure something note worth is said to mention next time you talk for example “hey, have you been rock climbing recently?”  I’d say more likely than not he won't ask for your number on your first encounter but that’s no reason to get discouraged, just continue to be approachable and friendly.

So He Asks You Out.

It’s hard to ask a girl out so if he does don’t be a jerk about it. Be confident and respond quickly. Most guys don’t come out of nowhere to ask you out. You know when it’s coming, if you are paying attention so be prepared with your answer beforehand. Just in case you didn’t know there are two options: yes or no. 

Saying Yes.

Don’t you dare say “sure” or “yeah,” those are affirmative pansy answers. Man up girl, either you want to go or you don’t. Be enthusiastic so there is no doubt that he made the right choice in asking you. If you can’t go on the specific day, and you want to go then give him another option, for example if you can’t Tuesday suggest at least one or two other days within the next week you could go and continue in this trend until you find a time and day.

Saying No.

First I hope you have a good reason for saying no. This isn’t hard to do so I hope you can figure it out for yourself.

On the Date.

Be honest. There’s no reason to act like someone you’re not, unless you are a super crappy person and then you shouldn’t being going on dates until you figure that out anyways. Flirting is key and simple. Listen to him. Respond to his comments. Look at him in the eyes and smile.